This can be a sensitive issue in knitting groups.  I run into a lot of knitters from across the country and hear of the problem often, so I’ve told this story in person to many people. It comes up so often I wonder if writing it here would help more broadly.

I’m talking about knitting group etiquette, and, specifically, not monopolizing the conversation.

I talk too much, and I’ve had to come up with something visual to help me. Maybe it will help others.

When I enter into a group setting, I see the group as a pie. Twelve people? Twelve pieces of pie. I get to talk for 1/12th of the time. That’s it. If someone else chooses quiet pie, I do not get to fill the void.

If the pie splits up into sub-pies or shifts in size, adjustments can be made.

I’m not perfect, but I’m getting better at listening and resisting the urge to grab more than my fair piece.

After six months in the making, the Plucky Knitter Shindig 2014 is sadly over.

What a weekend!

As co-organizer working on the nuts-and-bolts end I did not have time for many pictures, but my head is still full of all the smiling faces.  While those attending self-reported being shy and introverted, there was not much evidence of this! Groups of knitters congregating in the elegant lobby, many in their monkey-sock pajamas, group yarn consultations spread all over the floors of the Plucky store by the windows for good light, students soaking up new knitting knowledge in Franklin Habit’s classes, fashion show entrants S_T_R_U_T_T_I_N_G their stuff with great aplomb, karaoke singers and “singers” going all out- I was so impressed and a little jealous of the lack of inhibition!

Also impressive is the Plucky crew and the way they set up shop, transform a room into a retailing delight, and stock it to the gills. Thanks so much, everyone. I had a blast.

You came from four countries and thirty states. You came with suitcases full of treats to be shared and consumed, and filled those suitcases right back up with yarn and swag.

I am going to try hard to remember all my thank-yous. Please forgive me if I miss you- my mind is full.

• Sarah, Hayley, Ryan, Bob, Drew, Rebecca, Christine, Melissa, Nick, Jill, Jody, Amy, Amy (Sarah and I each found a great Amy to help us), and Franklin – you are a joy to work with. I give you what my mother-in-law considers the utmost compliment. You are all “so capable”!
• Amway Grand Plaza Hotel staff – Chris, Randi, you served us so well.
• Emma A. and the crew standing in line early to get into the store on Friday – thanks for all the help wrangling and alphabetizing name badges.
• Annie H. and others for the help arranging swag bags.
• Susan Heartwell for welcoming all our visitors to Grand Rapids.
• Chris de Longpre for bringing her critters for a book signing.
• Shindiggers who shared their ball winders and swifts.
• Shindiggers who volunteered to teach Instagram and measuring clinics.
• Ali B. for the leftover beers and full bottle of Whiskey.
• Kristen H. for being our bouncer.
• Friend Leslie L. for coffee delivery, and Anne H. for that thirst-quencing coke, Lesa T. for my bottled water, and Anne-Marie for buying me drinks both nights.
• Leanne for the Tim-Tams. Yum!
• Angela for talking with my kids and giving each of them chocolate (the one back home got his).
• Josh M. for introducing the Plucky Fellas to Founders.
• Anonymous persons dropping off secret gifts for others.
• My mom and mom-in-law for modeling my skirts at the fashion show – nice legs.
• Samantha for modeling my Shindiggity socks!
• My parents for their wheels so I could get around my former hometown as a visitor.
• My kids for helping out at the fashion show and having more fun than they planned.
• Our guests, all our guests, shindiggers, students, folks coming to hang out. Wow! You were kind, enthusiastic, generous, patient. You were also pretty awesome shoppers.
• Grand Rapids – you looked good and gave our guests things to see and pretty places to be.
• Door prizes and swag from Knitterella, Plucky Knitter, Know Your Cuts of Lamb, JC Briar, Chris de Longpre, Hunter Hammersen, Jill Wolcott, Betty Salpekar, Lilly Sweater Brush
• Sarah for gifts of shirts and Scholar.

My last visual as I drove off past the valet parking circle was of bellhops with carts loaded down with luggage and multiple yellow bags.

We all done good.

Here are just a few shots from the fashion show:

Until next time…fashion show videos are popping up.

I’m the flower on the right, taking a big detour before going skyward. I messed up today in a way I have not done before, and will not again. I misread my boarding pass and missed a flight.  The penalty was enough to make me learn a lesson, but not so much as to to ruin me, so I am sitting outside, working from an outdoor spot where I can still reach the wi-fi. Fortunately, I was planning a down day before working at my destination, and now I’ll just switch it around. I got two new classes submitted and have to finish up the rest of tomorrow’s work today, for tomorrow I fly for real. It’ll be okay.

What else can I see from where I sit? Our goldfish. Just a few bucks got us seven goldfish for the pond, but they are shy little buggers. They’ve come out from under their rock to feed, and maybe by sitting here with them we can become become acquainted.

I can also see I missed a spot shaving my legs. I’ll spare you a pic of that, but the carving of a Buddhist deity (?) that came with our house and oversees the side yard? I think she noticed.

Grand Rapids, Holland, and Kalamazoo- I’ll see you tomorrow.

A while back on Facebook someone posted a link to this site.

TracingRealBodies.org invites designers to print, trace, and use their real body models as templates for design. I have found it incredibly useful to design a garment onto a real body as opposed to designing within the flatness of a sweater schematic.

Here’s how I use it with my MacBook and Pages. I open their website, and open a blank Pages document. Drop the “real bodies” into the document. I put two views of the same body (there are lots to choose from) on one page. Set the opacity to 10%, which is barely visible. When I print that, there is enough to see for sketching, but not so much that is shows through. Perfectly useful.

I’ve just printed a stack of 15 different bodies and have them at the ready to sketch whenever I have an idea. This is working so, so, so much better than what I used to do.

I even enlarged a few and blocked out most of the body, leaving legs upon which socks can be drawn.

Let me know if you give it a go.

Several times a year I get to board an airplane and fly to a knitting event far from where I live. It would be a shame not to add a day here and there to see things I’ve never seen or visit with people I rarely see.

This strategy has gotten me to museums and public gardens on my bucket list, and it has let me spend some time with other knitting instructors I may not know well, but would love to know better.  I’ve done this in Los Angeles, Chicago, San Francisco, New York (where I got to hang out with my sister), and Minneapolis.

Now that I live in Seattle I get to play hostess and do some inviting. This month before Vogue Knitting LIVE! I invited Amy Detjen who in turn invited Amy Singer. (This made it very easy for my family to correctly use their names.) D got the guest room and S was a good sport getting the sofa. We did some shopping at Churchmouse Yarn and Teas, the fabric store, the bead store, and more on Bainbridge. “More” is code for ice cream and shoes. Most of the time we were content to relax, hang out, and get to know one another. It was a treat.

The time came to check into our hotel for the weekend of work. As predicted, we hardly caught site of each other after that. Knitting teachers work hard, we really do.

Cheers and thanks to Amy and Amy, and to future play date buddies.

Works for me, although I am happy to see a debate in the comments.